how do you ask someone

clchick

Registered User
to leave....

Situation:
someone has asked you to stay by you until they can get a job and find a place to live. They have found a job and is making enough money to find a place of dey own...cause they not paying any bills at your house.....but is like they not looking and when yuh try to help them look they get offended by that...asking yuh if yuh putting dem out.....

by law in NYC yuh cannot put someone out on the streets if they have nowhere to go or else you'll get arrested....that was tried already...the only next alternative is to go through landlord and tenant's association that does take forever......

what would you do....or how would you handle a situation like this ?????
 

TOP DOG

~ A R I E S ~ 3.31.12
Let the person know their welcome has expired.....that he/she needs to start lookin for a place and in the meantime he/she needs to start help payin rent/utlities...
 
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UpTown

We Not I
You could pay the right people and they will be out in a heart beat with minor cuts and broken bones .....:cool:
 

Sweetie

da sweet one
TOP DOG said:
Let the person know there welcome has expired.....that he/she needs to start lookin for a place and in the meantime he/she needs to start help payin rent/utlities...
exactly... I was in a similar situation and yuh gotta jus keep harassin dem about it or else dey aint gonna do nothin about leavin... if not yuh could do like me and be wicked and mean to the point where they cant take u no more and they leave and only say bye to ur roomate and not u...LMAO:p
 
C

cookies

Guest
i was put in that position before and i had to come right out and tell them to leave. a lot of people mistake kindness for weakness and feel they can take advantage of you for as long as possible. it may be hard, but stand your ground.................good luck!
 

topclassbubbla

Senior Member
Step 1: Get the yellow pages.

Step 2: Find the number for a locksmith.

Step 3: Make appointment to have locks changed when unwanted guest isn't there. Plan an extended vacation, and plan to leave immediately after the new locks have been installed.
 

bagolicious

He loves me!
clchick said:
to leave....

Situation:
someone has asked you to stay by you until they can get a job and find a place to live. They have found a job and is making enough money to find a place of dey own...cause they not paying any bills at your house.....but is like they not looking and when yuh try to help them look they get offended by that...asking yuh if yuh putting dem out.....

by law in NYC yuh cannot put someone out on the streets if they have nowhere to go or else you'll get arrested....that was tried already...the only next alternative is to go through landlord and tenant's association that does take forever......

what would you do....or how would you handle a situation like this ?????
hello ....clchick...juss say look COME OUT AH MEH HOUSE.. simple..
 

BAGOGYUL

Kaiser Ball Gyul
dilema

TOP DOG Let the person know their welcome has expired.....that he/she needs to start lookin for a place and in the meantime he/she needs to start help payin rent/utlities...
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I AGREE WITH TOP DOG
TELL DEM TO START HELPING U OUT.....OR GETS AH STEPPING
 

Kingmidas

The Prophet
clchick said:
the big question is how do you ask a parent to leave.....
oh ho.........daz a different story.

well buy them a ticket to trini and when they leff, move the fack outta there
 

§wêêtñꧧ

Is Pure MADNESSS ent..
Kingmidas said:
tell them
"you aint gotta go home but you got to get the hell uuuppppppp outta herrrrreeeeeee"
yessssssss i with u on dis one..daiz de damn ting self yes..no pity no sympathy fuh no flickin body..
 

trinisoul

Registered User
clchick said:
the big question is how do you ask a parent to leave.....
Now that's a hard one because no matter what you say they will be offended, but I guess it all comes down to how much you really want them to move out. I would just be honest and explain that you need your space and that you would help them get settled in their new place.

Just be prepared for a cuss or two...

GOOD LUCK!
 

Kamasutra

MLO, CTA 4 LIFE
Well say mommy/daddy my man(Notorious or Desperado) moving in next week so ah need mah privacy cuz we trying de living together ting before we get marry........done deal...:fyah
 

trinipetty

Head Gone!
don't know bout the parent situation, but I was in de same situation, but I aint wicked enough to but out de nasty girl, she finally gave me some money which averaged out to be $10 a week(woppeefackindoyyee) the day b4 she left, I was like good riddens.....I will neva eva allow anyone else to live with me, it was the worst experience eva...but yeah dias how ya does learn lessons in life:O
 
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clchick

Registered User
Kamasutra said:
Well say mommy/daddy my man(Notorious or Desperado) moving in next week so ah need mah privacy cuz we trying de living together ting before we get marry........done deal...:fyah
:kicks...but yuh hit the nail on the head there...but is not Notorious of Desperado who moving in but her finace is moving in with her in 5 days....so what is she to do....
 

The Shooter

Big and Strong Camp
Thats a real tough situation cl..

Put the shoe on the other foot and think what that person would do for you in that circumstance..

Easier to make decision like that.

:tekdat
 

clchick

Registered User
The Shooter said:
Thats a real tough situation cl..

Put the shoe on the other foot and think what that person would do for you in that circumstance..

Easier to make decision like that.

:tekdat
form what I know about my friend's situation...her mom decided that she is not moving till she finds what she thinks is acceptable to her....now she has had many opportunities to move out but found every excuse possible in the book and every complaint so as not to move anywhere.....

she is just a plain, miserable, selfish and self centered woman.....she only cares about herself and not about the injustice and advantage she is taking out on her daughter....
 

MoNi

Eyes of the Emperial Lion
many ways

Actually by law if the person has lived there for more than six months u cannot put them out. If he/she has not lived there for that time go to the police and let them know the situation and they would set up a time for them to come an escort them out.

It is sad that ur friend is not catching on that u want ur privacy back sine they have a good job now. That is down right inconsiderate and u need to sit them down and tell them that u think is there time now to find there own place 1) they work 2) he/she does not help u with and bills in the house and i bet they don't even vcontribute to food.....

Take some advice don't feel bad ...u might loose a friend but u would get respect in the long run u have done more than any other friend would have done!!!!!!

Peace and love
 

RASTAVILLAZ416

Torontonian in paradise
WELL CHILE!!

1 STOP COOKIN FOR MORE DAN ONE.
2 put all yuh tingz in ah saftey box an lock dem
3 dont leave yuh clothes unattended fuh one sec
4 be prepared to find another apt if puch comes to shove
and finnaly 5 TELL HIM /SHE RASS CLAT TO GET TO STEPPINNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!! be FIRM LET DEN KNOW YUH MEAN BUISNESS
 
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