Thread: You find out about a good friend wedding on facebook.....

You and dis fella/gyal went school together and was really good friends from young. But for the last 5 years, college and work seperated allyuh.

Both of you remained in contact and allyuh limed whenever you were in the same area, and still had other family who hung out wid each other, big circle of family & friends basically.

One day you see an inviation to an engagement party on facebook for this person, 7 months after the original engagement. What would be the proper reaction? And is it messed up to find out on facebook? Sidenote: You saw this person after the original engagement but before the invitation, and have each other email/phone number/address.

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Originally Posted by Taj

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What do i need to clarify??

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

You and dis fella/gyal went school together and was really good friends from young. But for the last 5 years, college and work seperated allyuh.

Both of you remained in contact and allyuh limed whenever you were in the same area, and still had other family who hung out wid each other, big circle of family & friends basically.

One day you see an inviation to an engagement party on facebook for this person, 7 months after the original engagement. What would be the proper reaction? And is it messed up to find out on facebook? Sidenote: You saw this person after the original engagement but before the invitation, and have each other email/phone number/address.

It's normal to feel hurt but you never know the cirsumstance for the person getting married. Maybe the person didn't feel they could trust you if they wanted to keep their marriage under wraps. Or maybe they just don't feel that close to you anymore, or they didn't know how to get a hold of you. It would be normal to be upset but if they didn't tell you there must be a reason just say congrats keep it moving. After the engagement if you guys talk ask why did they leave you out if it really does bother you.

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

You and dis fella/gyal went school together and was really good friends from young. But for the last 5 years, college and work seperated allyuh.

Both of you remained in contact and allyuh limed whenever you were in the same area, and still had other family who hung out wid each other, big circle of family & friends basically.

One day you see an inviation to an engagement party on facebook for this person, 7 months after the original engagement. What would be the proper reaction? And is it messed up to find out on facebook? Sidenote: You saw this person after the original engagement but before the invitation, and have each other email/phone number/address.

Can you put another option like a hmmm or something.

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

What do i need to clarify??

are you invited to the engagement party?

the last sentence changed my vote to not ok.

Originally Posted by Taj

are you invited to the engagement party?

It was last year, and I got invited on facebook.

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

It was last year, and I got invited on facebook.

Well at least you got invited. Don't take it to heart it's probalby cheaper to e-vite you then invite you

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

It was last year, and I got invited on facebook.

so whats the problem the mode of invitation?
you would have preferred personal phone call or nice invitation in the mail in the time bet. engagement and actual engagement party?

Or is the problem they didn't call to say they were engaged?
If everyone so close-knit as you say maybe they figure you would hear about the engagement sooner than later and offer congrats...

Originally Posted by KaisoStrum

You and dis fella/gyal went school together and was really good friends from young. But for the last 5 years, college and work seperated allyuh.

Both of you remained in contact and allyuh limed whenever you were in the same area, and still had other family who hung out wid each other, big circle of family & friends basically.

One day you see an inviation to an engagement party on facebook for this person, 7 months after the original engagement. What would be the proper reaction? And is it messed up to find out on facebook? Sidenote: You saw this person after the original engagement but before the invitation, and have each other email/phone number/address.

The nature of the relationship wasn't such that they felt it was important for the acquaintence to know they were engaged. One shouldn't take offense unless they're self absorbed and immature.

dem obviously doh tink allyuh friendship as good as u feel it is/was.......fire bun dem

i woulda feel a how...and then get over it....

Originally Posted by Picong

dem obviously doh tink allyuh friendship as good as u feel it is/was.......fire bun dem

Yeah, what he said.

Originally Posted by Taj

so whats the problem the mode of invitation?
you would have preferred personal phone call or nice invitation in the mail in the time bet. engagement and actual engagement party?

Or is the problem they didn't call to say they were engaged?
If everyone so close-knit as you say maybe they figure you would hear about the engagement sooner than later and offer congrats...

Well the thing is, I/we dont know the other person in the marriage. I just did not expect to hear about it through facebook 7 months after the fact.