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Old 02-22-2012, 11:34 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Serious enough to break an engagement?
Men: If ur fiance' has no children when you met her and through out the relationship, and now that you all are engage she reveals a secret that her sister son is actually her son. She was just young and couldn't deal with raising a child by herself. Would you still marry her?


Ladies: Same scenario, his sister is raising his daughter as her own. Woud' stick it out and marry him?

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Old 02-22-2012, 11:37 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Men: If ur fiance' has no children when you met her and through out the relationship, and now that you all are engage she reveals a secret that her sister son is actually her son. She was just young and couldn't deal with raising a child by herself. Would you still marry her?


Ladies: Same scenario, his sister is raising his daughter as her own. Woud' stick it out and marry him?

what kind of person lies about shit like that... and waits that long to reveal it?

that's an effin coward?

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Old 02-22-2012, 11:40 AM   #4 (permalink)
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what kind of person lies about shit like that... and waits that long to reveal it?

that's an effin coward?
clearly someone who isn't as perfect as you
how long did she wait, what did she lie about..

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Old 02-22-2012, 11:59 AM   #5 (permalink)
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NO!!

Why the hell would you hide hat you have a kid and why wait until we're engaged to tell me. That's like trying to trap somebody. Not cool. What else are you hiding? A child is a big deal. Jeez!
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Old 02-22-2012, 12:27 PM   #6 (permalink)
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NO!!

Why the hell would you hide hat you have a kid and why wait until we're engaged to tell me. That's like trying to trap somebody. Not cool. What else are you hiding? A child is a big deal. Jeez!
maybe the childs birth was the result of a rape by a family member which is difficult for the individual to deal with or discussing.

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Old 02-22-2012, 01:02 PM   #7 (permalink)
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for the ppl who say no..why not?

i have a cousin that had a child at 12...the girl was 11...my auntie raises the child and he calls auntie mom..even tho is really his grandmother...child doesnt know--they are only 12 years apart

that child is now 13 (i think) and my cousin is 25...if he meets someon, you think he will feel comfortable disclosing certain information? why should he until he was getting serious or about to get married? most ppl dont just share thier family secrets/laundry to just every and anybody!

tryna understand the logic in holding something that they did as a child against someone

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for the ppl who say no..why not?

i have a cousin that had a child at 12...the girl was 11...my auntie raises the child and he calls auntie mom..even tho is really his grandmother...child doesnt know--they are only 12 years apart

that child is now 13 (i think) and my cousin is 25...if he meets someon, you think he will feel comfortable disclosing certain information? why should he until he was getting serious or about to get married? most ppl dont just share thier family secrets/laundry to just every and anybody!

tryna understand the logic in holding something that they did as a child against someone
I don't believe you have to discuss all business with all and sundry. But if you're in a serious committed relationship, that is something that should be disclosed. Why wait till you're engaged to say something. It comes off like you're trying to get me in a space where I'm already in too deep to make a rational decision.

Suppose I don't want to marry a man with kids, then the guy would essentially be taking that choice away from me by waiting so long to disclose that. Then I would lose trust in him. How can I enter into a marriage if I don't trust you and you don't trust me enough to tell me something so serious?
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Originally Posted by BABYLOC View Post
for the ppl who say no..why not?

i have a cousin that had a child at 12...the girl was 11...my auntie raises the child and he calls auntie mom..even tho is really his grandmother...child doesnt know--they are only 12 years apart

that child is now 13 (i think) and my cousin is 25...if he meets someon, you think he will feel comfortable disclosing certain information? why should he until he was getting serious or about to get married? most ppl dont just share thier family secrets/laundry to just every and anybody!

tryna understand the logic in holding something that they did as a child against someone
they will never see things that way.....

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they will never see things that way.....
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I don't believe you have to discuss all business with all and sundry. But if you're in a serious committed relationship, that is something that should be disclosed. Why wait till you're engaged to say something. It comes off like you're trying to get me in a space where I'm already in too deep to make a rational decision.

Suppose I don't want to marry a man with kids, then the guy would essentially be taking that choice away from me by waiting so long to disclose that. Then I would lose trust in him. How can I enter into a marriage if I don't trust you and you don't trust me enough to tell me something so serious?
It really is that simple

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