only if most women held men to similar standards, however most were made to believe that "boys will be boys"....

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I'm sure that I can still be wifey material. After all, men only see my wild side come out in the bedroom. I'll wait to tell him then.

Have your cake then but i'll still have mine.

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i agree....but ironically, my loyalty and faith in him...my patience, compassion and understanding...and the fact that he considered me his best friend is not what ruled me out as wifey material.....according to AKKS and probably, most other men...it was my sexual experience...go figure...gotta love men...right


maybe i should have gotten a meathead thug.....shit would have been much easier

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exactly. my thought is that if a man's "husband material value" cannot decrease then he isn't really held to much standard to begin with.

yea i find they should bring up women without that stupid notion that boys will be boys.. thats true tho.. boys will be boys.. but you should be dealing with men..

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mi style still sharp .....u a A-Minor and dem a B-Flat

nor does he have to accept accountability or responsibility....and that is by MALE ADMISSION not female assumption/generalization

because men themselves are saying that their value cannot decrease

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this mentality won't change until people, more specifically, stop seeing women as something to "gain".

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or maybe people should stop the BLAME game period.

right.

both women and men must do better; however, i don't see the current dynamic b/t the two changing anytime soon. unfortunate

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You set standards simple. The minute a dude looks at you and come with have a baby by me bullshit. You should not take it as a compliment. If you act like a babymama/side hoe most dudes will treat like that. Duh. In this day and age knowing who you are dating is very important. So all the lies normally surface eventually. Big clue peep the type of "friends" and company they keep.

you know that'll never happen. why? b/c ppl don't like to admit when they are wrong. if ppl displayed more integrity things would be a lot different. then again, it would be too easy.

can you please explain that? men too...i would also like to hear their perspective

i just want to make sure that showing a man loyalty, and trying to be compassionate and understanding of his flaws...and a willingness to exercise patience is not acting like a side hoe

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It's simple you don't entertain the babymama conversation with the man you're dating. Some women sometimes give men that as an option. If they can get the milk from the cow for free why buy it? For example, with Lauryn after two kids he did not ask her to marry him. She went and had like what 4more kids for him? SMH

ok...so for the women who DO NOT have kids, but still waited to be married, are you saying (as i asked before) that women should remain virgins in order to secure wife material status because her p*ssy stock decreases every time she has sex?

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