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Originally Posted by Picong

no more dan 3 children all together......but dese tings are confirmed b4 marriage

Suppose, prior to marriage having kids was discussed in detail...like how many/the time frame between births/when you'll be ready to have your first/etc.

And, when the time comes your Spouse' states they are no longer interested in having any kids. Adoption is not an option because they don't want to deal with kids period. Is that enough reason to seek a divorce? Or, could you be understanding enough to let it go and move on?

If its a big enough deal I think it will be..
B/C I really believe majority of people (especially women) get married to have kids.

I don't know how many times I have heard a woman say.. "I want to get married AND have kids", like its a package deal.

There are men out there who want to leave a "legacy" behind and there are some who might just enjoy being a parent........having a "mini me" to mold and enjoy the things you did as a youth.....teach dem how to play sports and be a productive human being......play mas and fete till d sun come up lol.........so yeah it could be a big deal on both sides

Of course people will walk in here and say.. you don't need to be married to have a child.. and yes.. we know that isthe case more often than not.. but I find most single, childless people are only willing to do it in marriage due to their values. and to them... its a package deal..

Originally Posted by Swerve

If its a big enough deal I think it will be..
B/C I really believe majority of people (especially women) get married to have kids.

I don't know how many times I have heard a woman say.. "I want to get married AND have kids", like its a package deal.

Originally Posted by Picong

There are men out there who want to leave a "legacy" behind and there are some who might just enjoy being a parent........having a "mini me" to mold and enjoy the things you did as a youth.....teach dem how to play sports and be a productive human being......play mas and fete till d sun come up lol.........so yeah it could be a big deal on both sides

besides, seeing it as big deal...

Is it enough to bolt?

Originally Posted by Colossus

besides, seeing it as big deal...

Is it enough to bolt?

yes......if having kids is that serious to the person........this is a life altering situation

Originally Posted by Colossus

besides, seeing it as big deal...

Is it enough to bolt?

I think it is....
What u have are 2 people that want something entirely different in life. Having Children are a big enough deal.