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    Open casket or closed casket?

    My father died a couple months ago after several years of declining health.
    My family decided that we wanted a closed casket because we prefer to
    remember him as the father, husband, uncle, grandfather and friend we all
    knew rather than to have an undertaker do his best to prepare his body so
    everyone could take one last look. Most of my friends were very respectful
    of this and a few said they appreciated not having to see him in the casket.

    One aunt who is a nun complained about not having an open casket. I explained that it was the immediate family's preference and left it at that.
    So what is your prefernce? Do you have any familiy traditions related to
    the death of a loved one?
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    Well, it would depend on how they died and what state the body was in... my husband died from cancer and he didn't want anyone to see him while he was in his last stages so of course i had a closed casket...he wouldn't have wanted anyone to see him like that...i blew up some old pics of him like posters and made a big collage of pics with him and his friends...it was better that way...those that were very close that wanted to see him one last time got a chance to when everyone else left.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Redlocks View Post
    My father died a couple months ago after several years of declining health.
    My family decided that we wanted a closed casket because we prefer to
    remember him as the father, husband, uncle, grandfather and friend we all
    knew rather than to have an undertaker do his best to prepare his body so
    everyone could take one last look. Most of my friends were very respectful
    of this and a few said they appreciated not having to see him in the casket.

    One aunt who is a nun complained about not having an open casket. I explained that it was the immediate family's preference and left it at that.
    So what is your prefernce? Do you have any familiy traditions related to
    the death of a loved one?


    Bury them quickly. I am tired of these" immigrant" funerals where the body is above ground for 2 weeks or more.If these cheapo relatives cant afford airfare, send them the video.
    The enemy of my enemy is my friend- Arabic proverb

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    Mixed feelings. I don't like funerals much period, but there are other ppl who want a last look some who may live abroad and want to see them in the flesh not a pic from long ago so it's difficult to realize everyone's preference. Easiest would be to leave it open and whoever doesn't want to view shouldn't.

    When my grandmother died I was already on my way to visit her but I was too late. I went in the room etc. It upset me and to this day I'm not actually sure if it was the wrong decision to view her at that point.

    Leave the option open for those that want to? I don't know how adamant I would be about keeping it closed. (Depends on his state in the last days but generally if he is already dead how much worse can he look?)
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    Mi ...... murder a boy one time, mi know da pussi deh couldn't get open casket ...Rifle remove half a him face...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Missmayling View Post
    Bury them quickly. I am tired of these" immigrant" funerals where the body is above ground for 2 weeks or more.If these cheapo relatives cant afford airfare, send them the video.
    *Idk*
    wrong thread?
    “A sharp knife never proclaims it’s sharpness to the world…but the first to fall against it becomes it’s advocate.”

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    Unless there are physical disfigurements I believe in an open casket.........I think part of the grieving process is looking at that dead person first for the last time..........and I would want to confirm is my family going into the ground.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Taj View Post
    *Idk*
    wrong thread?


    RE: Do you have any familiy traditions related to the death of a loved one?

    Thanks.
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    Great job with the quoting mayling
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    Quote Originally Posted by Inglorious Bastard View Post
    Great job with the quoting mayling
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    I don't go watch bodies at funerals so I will prefer closed casket all the time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Redlocks View Post
    My father died a couple months ago after several years of declining health.
    My family decided that we wanted a closed casket because we prefer to
    remember him as the father, husband, uncle, grandfather and friend we all
    knew rather than to have an undertaker do his best to prepare his body so
    everyone could take one last look. Most of my friends were very respectful
    of this and a few said they appreciated not having to see him in the casket.

    One aunt who is a nun complained about not having an open casket. I explained that it was the immediate family's preference and left it at that.
    So what is your prefernce? Do you have any familiy traditions related to
    the death of a loved one?
    Really sorry to hear about the death of your father.

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    Mr. BALTIMORE Redlocks's Avatar Redlocks is offline
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fiyah View Post
    Really sorry to hear about the death of your father.
    Thanks, Fiyah. I am fortunate to have a lot of great memories and to
    have had both of my parents well into my adult life.
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    My condolences to you...

    I lost my lil cuzin Jan.10th in a traffic accident, he was 23... I DO NOT enjoy viewing bodies, its spooks me, but I viewd him because i just could not believe he was really gone...Until I saw him lying there. It was good in the sense that I realized it was true, he was definatly gone, so I had to accept it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Redlocks View Post
    Thanks, Fiyah. I am fortunate to have a lot of great memories and to
    have had both of my parents well into my adult life.
    Give thanks for that. I only had one past the age of seven. Father died when I was really young. Yuh cyah replace dat.

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