Thread: Before you leave work....a quick question.

In reference to Cheating or Affairs.....


Whether you're the one that Cheated or was the one Cheated on....

Would you want to know or discuss details, or do you feel it's better to put it behind you all and look forward?

It's always better to know because u wont have anything tugging at yuh conscience/curiosity, but then there are individuals who would just rather not know because its too much. me, however would want to kno every single thing...then leave!

Originally Posted by Colossus

In reference to Cheating or Affairs.....


Whether you're the one that Cheated or was the one Cheated on....

Would you want to know or discuss details, or do you feel it's better to put it behind you all and look forward?

Depending on the situation. I right off the bat would want to know everything and take it from there. I can't sit back and act like nothing is going on when i have a feeling something is. I'm also a person who likes to talk my issues out. Will I stay or go I really don't know. The first response is leave but sometimes you have so much invested in your relationship and it might have been a one time thing so you might work it out.

i think i would rather know.. so then i can fully put it behind me.. not just cover it up.. i want to see all the dirt before i vaccuuum..

What's to talk about? The relationship is done at that point.

Originally Posted by dollbabi

What's to talk about? The relationship is done at that point.

That is it right there.

Relationship done and I am moving on.

Originally Posted by Colossus

In reference to Cheating or Affairs.....


Whether you're the one that Cheated or was the one Cheated on....

Would you want to know or discuss details, or do you feel it's better to put it behind you all and look forward?

I aint discussing no gosh darn details to facilitate a pity party, insecurities and inadequacies.

details are irrelevant as nothing said will be satisfactory and will just open up a bigger can of worms.


not up for discussion

nah man..you cant really honestly put anything behind you until you discuss the issue..

No need for discussion. Once you cheat your issues are no longer my problem. Goodbye and good luck, I'm out.

Originally Posted by Guyanese_Princess

No need for discussion. Once you cheat your issues are no longer my problem. Goodbye and good luck, I'm out.

lol but that is not the question of the thread..Thread question was not if you would leave or stay ..your emotions got in the way of answering the topic..

Originally Posted by ladyrastafari

i think i would rather know.. so then i can fully put it behind me.. not just cover it up.. i want to see all the dirt before i vaccuuum..

I'm stealing that....

Originally Posted by CocoErotika

I aint discussing no gosh darn details to facilitate a pity party, insecurities and inadequacies.

details are irrelevant as nothing said will be satisfactory and will just open up a bigger can of worms.


not up for discussion

It's understandable if that's how you feel, but what about your partner...perhaps they can handle the truth...maybe the truth will bring growth instead of stunt'.

Originally Posted by Lieutenant

lol but that is not the question of the thread..Thread question was not if you would leave or stay ..your emotions got in the way of answering the topic..

Yup, exactly....
Re-reading the thread question, I can see that i didn't express that part clearly. For all yuh who said good riddens, I meant with my question. That both parities want to work it out, but should the details be discussed like Why/Where/How?

Originally Posted by Colossus

I'm stealing that....





It's understandable if that's how you feel, but what about your partner...perhaps they can handle the truth...maybe the truth will bring growth instead of stunt'.





Yup, exactly....
Re-reading the thread question, I can see that i didn't express that part clearly. For all yuh who said good riddens, I meant with my question. That both parities want to work it out, but should the details be discussed like Why/Where/How?

As I previously stated yes, that's the only way both parties can learn from their mistakes.

Originally Posted by Lieutenant

lol but that is not the question of the thread..Thread question was not if you would leave or stay ..your emotions got in the way of answering the topic..

Originally Posted by Colossus

Yup, exactly....
Re-reading the thread question, I can see that i didn't express that part clearly. For all yuh who said good riddens, I meant with my question. That both parities want to work it out, but should the details be discussed like Why/Where/How?

oh sorry I misunderstood the question.
Well if both parties want to work it out then they should discuss it. They can't move on unless they talk details because the person who got cheated on will always wonder why and how it happened and they need to get all the dirt out in the open to see if it was a one time mistake or if the cheating party will not do it again. If I wanted to stay with such a person I would have to know all the details to make an informed decision about the future of the relationship.