Well, my grandfather had a child before he married my grandmother whom my mom would always refer to as Sister Ivy..which we young folks assumed she was a church sister. Anyway, she had kids and one of the girls grew up with my uncle, all I knew is that the girl was always smiling and it seemed that she was like a servant. Come to find out that she was my first cousin, and I could not imagine why the treated her like an outcast....long story short, it wasn't until I was older that I got to know her. And, some of the family members still treat my cousin and her siblings like outcasts...