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Originally Posted by kevlocks
Being a person whose family us from the Caribbean, it seems as though infidelity is something that we almost HAVE to deal with. Children being born out of Wedlock, then finding out they have family in the most crazy of ways.
example:
Woman meets guy. Woman likes guy. They decide to go on a date. Woman goes home to tell family about this guy she met that she has this "connection" with that can't be explained. Family tells her she can't date the guy becuase that's her little brother.  (Henceforth the unexplainable 'connection'!)
How does one deal with this?!?! And does anyone actually take a look at the long-term/generational effects of these sitations?
One of my mentors told me this:
"Infidelity has its challenges, and if the adults around one as a child are greatly wounded and bitter too, the world can be a cold, mean and lonely place for a child. However, life is not an easy journey, and we all do the best we can, as we are all wounded. The wounds are from a very violent and abusive and oppressive past and that is past down from generation to generation in many different ways."
What has been your expereince or have you know someone to live through this expereince?  |
Well, my grandfather had a child before he married my grandmother whom my mom would always refer to as Sister Ivy..which we young folks assumed she was a church sister. Anyway, she had kids and one of the girls grew up with my uncle, all I knew is that the girl was always smiling and it seemed that she was like a servant. Come to find out that she was my first cousin, and I could not imagine why the treated her like an outcast....long story short, it wasn't until I was older that I got to know her. And, some of the family members still treat my cousin and her siblings like outcasts... |