Being a person whose family us from the Caribbean, it seems as though infidelity is something that we almost HAVE to deal with. Children being born out of Wedlock, then finding out they have family in the most crazy of ways.

example:

Woman meets guy. Woman likes guy. They decide to go on a date. Woman goes home to tell family about this guy she met that she has this "connection" with that can't be explained. Family tells her she can't date the guy becuase that's her little brother. (Henceforth the unexplainable 'connection'!)


How does one deal with this?!?! And does anyone actually take a look at the long-term/generational effects of these sitations?

One of my mentors told me this:

"Infidelity has its challenges, and if the adults around one as a child are greatly wounded and bitter too, the world can be a cold, mean and lonely place for a child. However, life is not an easy journey, and we all do the best we can, as we are all wounded. The wounds are from a very violent and abusive and oppressive past and that is past down from generation to generation in many different ways."

What has been your expereince or have you know someone to live through this expereince?